The World Wide Web of Lies

 
By Jillian Jenée

 

Sitting on your couch waiting for the guy you met online to pick you up for your first date, you gaze romantically at his profile picture. You “ooh” and “ahh” over his big smile and perfectly straight, white teeth as well as his gorgeous blonde hair, and big, baby blue eyes. You blush as you scroll down and see a muscular torso, tall stature, and huge bulge in his Hanes underwear. You close your eyes and drift off into a dream of what your lives will be like in ten years when you’re married with kids.

Suddenly, the doorbell rings. You jump up from the couch and without a thought, open the door and there he stands — a five-foot-tall, sixty-year-old man with two strands of grey hair laying flat atop his head, his dentures hanging partly out of his mouth and the skin on his face drooping far under his chin. He hands you a bouquet of red roses and says, “You look even better in person.”                 

He pulls out a flip phone from the front of his fanny pack and shows you the naked picture you thought you sent to the hottie last night. “This is you, isn’t it?” Old Man River asks with a huge smile.

Thinking that this has to be a cruel joke one of your girlfriends is playing on you as an April Fools’ prank, you look around outside for that tall, handsome, blonde hottie, but no one else is there. It’s just you and Old Man River.
                                       
This is not a mere hypothetical scenario. “Catfish,” the MTV reality show about online relationships, reveals these kinds of situations every week. (And as we all probably know by now, Notre Dame linebacker Manti Te’o recently fell victim to a fake-girlfriend hoax.)                                                                                                  
The freedom and anonymity of the internet makes us all susceptible to scammers.

          

I cannot even count how many times I’ve talked to guys online only to find that they are completely different from the people they claim to be. These perverts change their names, steal pictures from random people on Facebook, and lie about their lives. Some of them even go as far as to offer you money for sex.

           

Online communication can be highly dangerous because sometimes, no matter what people tell you, there is no way of knowing if it’s true. You may find yourself sharing an intimate connection and starting a close relationship with one impostor after another. Social media can cast a spell and evoke trust in people you’ve never physically met. Before you know it, you may find yourself submitting to your cyber-date’s request for R-rated pictures of yourself. This lack of inhibition online lends credibility to the saying “out of sight, out of mind.”

As “Catfish” shows, many cyber daters aren’t who they appear to be, lying about their job, hometown, age, and even their gender and ethnicity. 
                                                                                        
But don’t let that completely discourage you from engaging in online communication. If you use it well, it can be quite beneficial. Talking to friends, teachers, and distant relatives when face-to-face communication is unavailable is completely safe and helps keep those relationships alive. Many websites like Facebook, Twitter, etc. also have privacy policies that you can set up to fit your needs, so that only the people you want to see your profiles, tweets, and statuses can see them. Being social online can also be a great way of networking and making new friends.                                  

Just make sure you are careful about the information you send out to people and be wary that the Internet is accessible to anyone. Once you put something out there, you can’t take it back. As a character in the film “The Social Network” says, “The Internet isn’t written in pencil, it’s written in ink.”
                     
Be sure to listen to Media Matters this Saturday, 11 a.m., on WCRD, as the organization will talk about the implications of such online communication and if social media outlets can ever produce true reflections of their users.

Meet Media Matters

Hi, my name is Sam, and I’m a media addict.

Like many college students, I’ve long dreamt of being able to honestly refer to YouTube-surfing as research. Media Matters made that dream a reality. The day I found myself with the club’s president Rick Belbutoski, listening to “Tipsy” and studying other media depictions of drinking, I felt right at home.

The great philosopher Confucius said, “Find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Media Matters provides that kind of job — one that never feels like a chore and aims to offer fun, enriching opportunities unlike any you’ve had before, namely giving you the freedom to explore what you want.

These days, most of us are explorers of media. From Facebook to “The Real Housewives of New Jersey,” media consumes us. Media Matters allows me to shed my consumption guilt and put my media addiction to good use.

The best part of this whole enterprise is not just studying media, but the feeling that we are making it. It’s not every day that you get to enjoy and contribute to a field you love. Butterflies still flutter in my stomach when I go on the radio show or sit down to write a blog. Working in the media is an exciting, daunting task — it's like holding a giant mirror up to society and telling the world what you see. I can’t think of anything else I’d rather do. And thanks to Media Matters, I’ve never been happier as a media addict. — Sam Watermeier

What is Media Matters? A Word from Our President

When I first learned about Media Matters, it wasn’t the organization that it is today. I went to the TCOM Super Party last fall and found it there. Though at the time it wasn’t as active a group, I immediately believed in the idea behind it. That wonderfully alliterative name — Media Matters — jumped out as a relevant idea.     

By the end of the fall 2012 semester we had broadcast four radio shows. I had recruited Joey Parrish, Bethany Wesley, and Sam Watermeier to join me in figuring out what this organization was going to become. Last week we celebrated show lucky number 13, a newly renovated Facebook page, and a blog that has grown right along with our organization’s identity.

We have sought to create a niche in tackling one issue related to media or pop culture every week, but this week we reflect in a behind the scenes look at what we are, why it’s so important to us, and where we’re headed in the future.

The “10 cent tour” of what we do is study a different subject related to media every week and share our thoughts through commentary both on our radio show and the blog, but the “10 cent tour” barely scratches the surface.

The radio show requires an average of four to seven hours every week to produce. The blog demands multiple drafts, meeting time, and revision before it’s finally posted. In regards to the commentary we produce we aim for excellence.

Though it sounds like a lot of work, the process is almost always delightful. I couldn’t ask for a better group of people to work with. We have gotten to know each other as more than just associates; we are friends, investing in each other’s lives, picking each other up when we’re down, and cheering each other on every step of the way. — Rick Belbutoski

Photos by Tracy Attaway

The Forbidden Allure of Alcohol

By Sam Watermeier

“In this country, when you say ‘don’t’ to a kid, it really means ‘do.’” So said Lionel Richie in a comment that’s just as relevant today as when he said it in an episode of “Politically Incorrect” fifteen years ago.

Richie was speaking about the forbidden allure of alcohol, the way the mystery surrounding it only draws kids closer to it.

In America, drinking is a rite of passage. It’s encouraged as a way of transitioning into adulthood. Hell, here at Ball State, one of my professors even suggested sipping a little Scotch to calm our nerves while writing our term papers.

Throughout my three years in college, I’ve noticed a largely playful attitude about drinking; parents and professors often smirk when the subject is broached.

Drinking is fun and socially accepted, but it’s also unhealthy and dangerous. However, unlike tobacco, alcohol hasn't lost its allure. Characters in TV shows and movies are still seen knocking back drinks, but it’s rare to see them lighting up. There is even talk of taking smoking out of PG-13 movies to prevent teenage tobacco use.

St. Patrick’s Day is coming up — a day synonymous with drinking. (It's practically as much of a requirement as wearing green.) This is further evidence that our culture tightly embraces the notion that being sober excludes someone from fun. No one seems to realize that drunkenness is really an artificial kind of fun. Alcohol is a social performance enhancer, often referred to as "liquid courage." (It helped Denzel Washington miraculously crash-land a plane in "Flight!")

The seductive quality of alcohol perpetuated by the media is seemingly impossible to subvert. Even in a film like "Flight," which exposes the dangers of alcohol, the consumer at the center of it exudes a sexy-cool allure. (Just look at that handsome devil.)

As long as the media associates alcohol with this image, its dangers will never be fully acknowledged.

We don't have to make the same associations as the media though. Be conscious of the dangers of drinking. And please drink responsibly.   

The Illusion of Intimacy

 

By Sam Watermeier 

The Internet claims to connect people. In that regard, it succeeds, but only in a superficial sense. The sense of intimacy that comes with the connection is an illusion, a simulation. That artificial nature becomes painfully clear when you turn to cyberspace for someone to be more than a friend.

“People want to go back to the day where you're sitting at a coffee shop, make eye contact and there is this mysterious moment where you don't know each other,” said dating coach and author Adam LaDolce in a recent CNN article.

Social media has made this sometimes anxiety-inducing way of meeting someone all too easy to avoid. It hypnotizes us all with an illusion of intimacy and communication, leading even typically extroverted people to hide behind their computer screens, thinking that an online conversation is the same as a face to face one. At the end of the day, Facebook and sites like it are, as body language expert Blake Eastman said, “groups of people that are highly connected online but socially isolated.”

“We feel that we don’t need to look people in the eyes to communicate anymore — a keystroke has replaced that look,” Eastman said. “But at the end of the day, we’re designed for human contact, not a computer screen.”

Face-to-face communication isn’t as easy as online contact, and that’s why it should feel more rewarding. Doesn’t the completion of a challenge feel more satisfying than that of a simple task? As writers Elliot Aronson and Carol Tavris explain in Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me), “When people go through a great deal of pain, discomfort, effort, or embarrassment to get something, they will be happier with that ‘something’ than if it came to them easily.” That doesn’t seem to be the case now. These days, God forbid we experience some emotion when we talk to people. God forbid our palms get sweaty. God forbid our voices shake. We hide online to avoid those situations.

While online communication can certainly serve as a confidence booster or a catalyst for face-to-face contact, it should not function as a substitute. It's not a bad place to initiate a relationship, but dependence on it leads down a lonely road, especially when you realize that online chatting is essentially the equivalent of a long distance relationship. 

My advice? Don’t stay online to find a special someone. Sure, Match.com and sites like it have produced a few success stories. But look what happened to Manti Teo or the star of “Catfish.” Plus, online communication is not the real deal. It’s a simulation of it, nothing more. Use it sparingly. Look someone in the eye and strike up a conversation. Get off the Internet right…now.

Famed and Flawed

By Sam Watermeier

Why would someone release a tape of an actor getting angry on a film set? Or wait outside the grocery store to snap a shot of a model without makeup?

People do this to give us what we all desire and thus what sells — the notion that celebrities are flawed, just like the rest of us. However, we often contradict that desire by looking down upon them rather than saluting them when they show raw humanity.

There are very few cases in which a celebrity’s publicized blemishes worked to his or her advantage. When actor Mel Gibson’s angry phone calls to his ex-girlfriend were released in 2011, his demons added weight to his performance in “The Beaver,” in which he played a man suffering from similar inner turmoil. And when Hollywood badboy Mickey Rourke became a respectable actor again with “The Wrestler,” his off-screen comeback story brought attraction to the film’s similar tale of restoration and redemption.

The recent revelation of Lance Armstrong’s wrongdoings was less beneficial. When the former professional cyclist confessed to the ultimate confessor — Oprah Winfrey — the world wagged its finger at him for doping.

“I’m a flawed character,” Armstrong admitted to Oprah. The fact that he used the word “character” instead of “person” is telling. It suggests that Armstrong exists in a separate reality, that he is a two-dimensional figure in the media rather than a flesh-and-blood human in the world outside it.

Unlike the case with Gibson and Rourke, the exposure of Armstrong’s flawed humanity seemed to strip him of public worship. When his private actions were projected onto the public screen, his iconic veneer began to crack.

It’s time to straighten out our expectations of celebrities. Do they not qualify as celebrities if they display behavior on our level? Do we want them to be humans or gods?

We seem to want to relate to them yet we shake our heads in disgrace when they slip up or blow a gasket. Just listen to Christian Bale’s freak-out tape again. He doesn’t say anything that a “normal” person wouldn’t say in a fit of anger. All in all, it’s a pretty normal, relatable display of frustration yet the media and its consumers treated it like a shameful spectacle.

Perhaps the perceived crime of a spectacle like this is that it breaks the illusion all celebrities are expected to create — the illusion that they are not mere mortals but larger than life. Is there room for less iconic portraits of them amidst the media’s sensationalist spectacles?

My hope is that someday we will learn that being half human makes you stronger than a god. And to answer your question, yes, that is a quote from “Wrath of the Titans.”

The Revolution Will Be Televised

By Rick Belbutoski

This week isn’t about pop culture analysis, but rather a focus on the role that media plays in shaping the way its consumers perceive some of the grandest events of their lives. Thanks to Joey Parrish’s conversation with Professor John Glen, we here at Media Matters were able to pay tribute to the holiday we marked last Monday, Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.

The late 1950s, ’60s and early ’70s were times when television news broadcasting was in its infancy. Professor Glen spoke to how the young generation of baby boomers understood how to use television to their advantage, often flooding the airwaves with images of peaceful protests being met with harsh backlash.

 

Going forward here, I will explore the effects of media in this time period as well draw on how technology has changed the way we relate to the world today. I’ll be doing this by using three other historical events as examples: the assassination of President John F. Kennedy, America landing men on the moon, and the United States involvement in the war in Vietnam in comparison with our involvement in the war in Iraq.

In 1960 John Fitzgerald Kennedy was elected our nation’s president by the narrowest margin ever at that time. Our country’s first Catholic president faced major challenges early in his term. A failed attempt to invade Cuba led to the Cuban Missile Crisis. The communist governments of the former Soviet Union and Cuba joined forces, moving Soviet weaponry in range of American targets. Arguably one of the tensest times of the Cold War era, this thirteen day standoff in October of 1962 could have meant the end of our country as we knew it. Less than a year later, President Kennedy was gunned down in Dallas, Texas while riding in his limousine. He was assassinated before a live television audience; his death conformed by a television news media that was more concerned about journalistic ethics than market share and spectacle.

In his Inauguration Speech in 1961, President Kennedy called the United States to go to the moon. The Soviet Union had succeeded in putting the first men into orbit in 1959, and after Kennedy’s call to action, a new kind of American cowboy began exploring a new kind of frontier. Though some are reluctant to believe that the United States ever landed Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin on the moon, this event was broadcast to a world watching in silence as man accomplished what was thought to be impossible.

While the world was busy watching men land on the moon for the first time, the United States was involved in a war that disturbed the majority of the nation. Television coverage of the war in the late 1960s and early ’70s as well as images of anti-war protests lead to a remarkable shift in the nation’s feelings about our role in Vietnam. A Gallup poll taken in late August of 1965 reported that 60% of Americans felt that sending to troops to Vietnam was a good decision. By May of 1971 Gallup reported that only 28% of Americans agreed with the war.

While Vietnam coverage exposed harsh realities, Iraq war coverage seemed to play more like sensationalist spectacle. 

Media plays a major role in how we relate to the world around us. In cataclysmic events, such as these, media brings these events into our living rooms. On Saturday’s radio show on 91.3 WCRD: The Pulse of Ball State, we used these historic events as examples to illustrate the importance of vigilantly seeking information in a world that is now more heavily mediated than ever before.

Tune in this Saturday at 11 a.m. on 91.3 FM for another edition of Media Matters: The Public Screen.

New Year's Resolutions in a Hi-Res Age

  

By Sam Watermeier

In this season of new resolutions, advertisements for the weight loss-boosting cereal Special K are everywhere, all of which enticingly ask, “What will you gain when you lose?” Over the past year of losing weight, I have gained an unsettling awareness of our culture’s obsession with physical appearance — an obsession that seems to have reached an all-time public high. 

When I turn on the TV or open a magazine, I feel inundated with photos and tales of physical transformation.

In the fall of 2011, I decided to transform my appearance as well. I was simply tired of being a chubby guy. I felt like a thin person trapped in a big body, which seems to be the media’s view of anyone who is overweight. Like any ambitious American, I wanted to shed my shell as quickly as possible.

The regime that followed was essentially glorified torture. For several months, I ate and exercised as respectively little and much as possible. My daily meals consisted of the following: a Slim Fast shake in the morning, a Special K cereal bar for lunch, a salad for dinner and coffee throughout the day to boost my energy. I jogged on the treadmill for at least an hour every day, usually burning between 500 and 700 calories (about half of what I was eating.)

Between late November and February, I lost about 50 pounds (more than I should have, according to my doctor.) At a certain point, I didn’t feel hunger anymore. I fed on reactions to my new appearance.

Herein lies the dangerous appeal of Facebook or any social media — its ability to evoke almost instant validation. When friends liked my new profile pictures and commented on my appearance, I felt absolute satisfaction. Only later did I realize how shallow and artificial that satisfaction was.

Most of the “likes” I received were from people I barely knew. Why did so much of my happiness depend upon their virtual validation?

When you turn on the TV, you are bound to find plenty of strangers telling you that you will be a better, happier person if you are thin. (This is also suggested by the countless “happy hand on hip” profile pictures online). In my view, we live in an aesthetic-driven age in which our external condition — and society’s view of it — determine our internal state rather than the other way around. Is that because society is becoming more two-dimensional, as people are engaging more with cyberspace than the world outside it? Like The Film Yap’s Nick Rogers wrote in his review of “The Social Network,” we have all been in computer whiz Mark Zuckerberg’s position at the end of that film, refreshing our Facebook pages, “awaiting digital confirmation of our flesh-and-blood worth.”

Social media offers an illusion of intimacy, a chance for people to acknowledge each other’s appearances more comfortably and discreetly.

Of course, the emphasis on physicality over personality was apparent long before the advent of profile pages. The media seems to always largely focus on what is tangible, visible, marketable. (Weight loss programs are arguably easier to “sell” than treatments for depression.) News and social media focuses on issues we can see — and sensationalize.

In that sense, our culture has scratched only the surface of human potential. Hopefully we can dig deeper, look into less visible problems, reach for less tangible goals — food for thought as we chase our resolutions this month. 

This Saturday, from 11 to noon on 91.3 WCRD, you can hear more of Media Matters' thoughts on this topic.